Understanding Emotional Support
In times of difficulty, stress, or crisis, having someone to listen to your feelings can make all the difference. This “listening” often comes in the form of emotional support. But what exactly is emotional support and why is it so crucial, especially when discussing suicide prevention?
Emotional support refers to the comfort, reassurance and understanding that we receive from others. It’s about feeling heard, validated and cared for by people in our lives. It’s a fundamental human need that contributes significantly to our mental health and wellbeing.
What Does Emotional Support Look Like?
Emotional support isn’t a single action; it’s a collection of behaviors and attitudes that convey care and understanding. It can manifest in various ways, including:
- Active Listening: Genuinely paying attention to what someone is saying without judgment, interruption or trying to fix their problems immediately. It’s about letting them express themselves fully.
- Validation of Feelings: Acknowledging and accepting someone’s emotions even if you don’t fully understand or agree with their perspective.
- Empathy and Compassion: Trying to understand and share the feelings of another person. It’s about connecting on a human level and showing genuine concern for their wellbeing.
- Presence and Availability: Simply being there for someone, whether in person, over the phone or through messages. Knowing that someone is available to listen or just sit with you can provide immense comfort.
- Offering Reassurance (When Appropriate): Providing words of comfort and hope, letting someone know they are not alone and that things can get better. This should be done gently and without minimising their concerns.
- Practical Help (If Needed and Offered): Sometimes, emotional support can also involve offering practical assistance like helping with daily tasks, if it eases their burden. However, the primary focus remains emotional connection and interaction.
- Non-Judgmental Attitude: Creating a safe space where someone feels they can share their thoughts and feelings without fear of criticism, blame or dismissal.
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Why is Emotional Support so Important for Mental Wellbeing?
Emotional support plays a vital role in maintaining good mental health and can be a protective factor against suicidal thoughts. Here’s why:
- Reduces Feelings of Isolation: Loneliness and isolation are significant risk factors for poor mental health. Emotional support combats these feelings by fostering connection and reminding the person that they are not alone.
- Promotes Sense of Belonging: Feeling connected to others and having a sense of belonging can provide purpose and meaning which are crucial protective factors for mental wellbeing.
- Validates Experiences: When someone feels heard and their pain is acknowledged, it can prevent feelings of invalidation and hopelessness. It shows them that their struggles are real and worthy of attention.
- Builds Coping Strategies: Having a supportive network can help individuals develop their own coping strategies to better manage their mental health and other challenges. They can learn from others and feel more equipped to face difficulties as they arise.
- Encourages Help-Seeking: Knowing that there are people who care can make it easier for individuals to reach out for professional help when they need it, reducing the stigma associated with mental health challenges.
- Provides a Safety Net: For individuals struggling with suicidal thoughts, emotional support can act as a critical safety net, offering a reason to hold on and reminding them of their self-worth.
Where Can You Find Emotional Support?
Picking people you can trust to discuss your needs openly builds the foundations for self-development. Emotional support can come from various places, including:
- Friends and Family: Often our first line of defense, close friends and family members can provide invaluable comfort and understanding.
- Partners: Intimate relationships can be a significant source of emotional support and sharing.
- Support Groups: Connecting with others who have similar experiences can create a powerful sense of community and shared understanding.
- If you suffer from a Chronic Illness or Pain, you can apply to join our support group.
- Community Organisations: Many local and national organisations offer support services and connection opportunities with others.
- Helplines: These services provide immediate, confidential emotional support from trained professionals and volunteers.
- If you need emotional support, you can contact us.
- Mental Health Professionals: Therapists, counsellors and other mental health experts can provide structured emotional support and help develop coping strategies.
Community Mental Health Forum
๐ The Community Mental Health Forum is a safe space to discuss, share and make meaningful connections through peer-to-peer online support.
Offering Emotional Support to Others: Key Considerations
If you are looking to offer emotional support to someone, remember to:
- Listen More Than You Talk: Focus on understanding their perspective.
- Avoid Giving Unsolicited Advice: Unless asked, focus on listening and validating.
- Be Patient: Healing and coping takes time.
- Take Care of Yourself: Supporting others can be emotionally draining. Ensure you have your own support system.
- Know When to Encourage Professional Help: While your support is valuable, sometimes professional intervention is necessary.
Conclusion
Emotional support is a powerful tool for wellbeing and a critical component for preventing suicide. By understanding what it is, how it works and where to find it (or offer it), we can all contribute to a more compassionate and supportive society where everyone feels seen, heard and valued.
Immediate Support & Resources
In an emergency, call 999.
If you or someone else is experiencing a mental health crisis, visit our Urgent Help page to find the right help at the right time.
For coping strategies and additional resources, visit the Resource Hub.
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NHS 111 (Select Mental Health Option)
- Call: 111 and select the mental health option (Option 2 in some areas).
- What it’s for: Urgent mental health support, advice and connection to local crisis services. This is a primary point of contact if you’re experiencing a mental health crisis but are not in immediate physical danger.
- Note: If you are deaf or have hearing loss, use NHS 111 โ SignVideo or dial 18001 111 (for Textphone).
Samaritans
- Call: 116 123 (Free, 24/7)
- Email: jo@samaritans.org (Response within 24 hours)
- What it’s for: Confidential emotional support for anyone experiencing feelings of distress, despair or suicidal thoughts.
Shout Crisis Text Line
- Text: Send the word “SHOUT” to 85258 (Free, 24/7)
- What it’s for: Confidential text-based support if you’re in crisis and need immediate help.
PAPYRUS HOPELINE247
- Call: 0800 068 4141 (Free, 24/7)
- Text: 88247 (Free, 24/7)
- Email: pat@papyrus-uk.org
- What it’s for: Support for young people (under 35) struggling with suicidal feelings or anyone concerned about a young person who might be struggling.
What Mental Health?
Mental health, like physical health, is fundamental to our overall wellbeing. It shapes our thoughts, feelings, and actions, enabling us to navigate life’s challenges, form strong relationships and thrive in our communities.
What is Wellbeing?
Wellbeing is the state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy. When we want to improve our physical or mental health, we do this by improving our overall wellness or wellbeing.